Eating on Shabbat—Such a Pleasure!

 

Through the mitzvah of taking an oath—to give charity or to do something good—and fulfilling it right away, you are privileged to experience oneg Shabbat. Oneg Shabbat means engaging in the bodily pleasures on Shabbat for the sake of Heaven, and not in order to satisfy your physical cravings, God forbid.

Immediately fulfilling your oath also graduates you to a more spiritual level of eating, even on weekdays. This enhanced level of eating is also a type of oneg Shabbat. Rebbe Nachman teaches that oneg Shabbat alludes to eating in a dignified and sanctified way (Likutey Moharan I, #57). If you can eat on this level, you don’t need to fast. {Rebbe Nachman doesn’t mean you don’t have to fast on Yom Kippur or the other obligatory fast days. He means you don’t have to undertake a voluntary fast day in order to achieve your spiritual goals.} When your eating is consistently on this high level, you gain mastery over your temper. You can achieve a high level of calmness that nothing angers you or even annoys you. Besides the obvious benefit of not becoming incensed when things don’t go your way, there is a tremendous by-product.

Our Sages tell us (Pesachim 66b) that when a person becomes angry, he is stripped of some of his Torah-wisdom. The reverse is also true. When are you careful to control your temper, your lost Torah-wisdom is given back to you. As your Torah-wisdom is restored, your Divine image shines more brightly. This beaming sacred light weakens your spiritual opponents and eventually gets rid of them. They are no longer be able to harm you or anything else in Creation. This is alluded to in the Torah when it says, “All the beasts of the field will fear and dread you” (Genesis 9:2).

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The food you eat on Shabbat is very precious and very holy. Why? Because that food is transformed into pure, unadulterated holiness and Godliness. The Sitra Achra (the Side of Evil, aka “the bad guys”) has no portion whatsoever in the food you eat on Shabbat. This doesn’t happen automatically. You have to eat in the dignified and sanctified manner, as we mentioned above, and you have to eat genuinely for the sake of Heaven.

As your Shabbat-eating becomes more like this—the more it is authentic oneg Shabbat—the less often you will get angry and the less your anger will be. Not only that, but people and influences that prevent you from being a better Jew will fade out of your life. Perhaps best of all, you’ll merit to love your fellow Jews and live peacefully with all of them.

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Getting Ready for Rosh Hashanah

One of the things we learned from our ruminations about Uman and LSD is that a big part of our spiritual—excuse me, Jewish—mission is getting along with our fellow Jews. (Of course, Rebbe Akiva put this a bit more succinctly when he said “Love your fellow as you love yourself” [Leviticus 19:18] is a major principle of the Torah [Bereishis Rabbah 24:7].)

But loving people—even if you don’t like them and even if you can’t stand them—and inter-acting civilly is not the last step. It’s the first step. The real power of love is much greater. Pardon the cliché, but the whole is far greater than the sum of its parts.

As you know, Rosh Hashanah is Yom HaDin, Judgment Day. We pray to be written in the Book of Life, for a sweet, happy and healthy new year. But that judgment thing, you know, just won’t go away. Fortunately, God also wants us to come out with a good verdict. So we have to give Him some good reason to make it come out right.

Each of us has the ability to influence the verdict. In fact, you are one of the judges. You are not the chief justice, but your opinion will not only be heard, but it will factor into the final decision. Rebbe Nachman teaches, “On Rosh Hashanah one must be wise and think only good thoughts, that God will be good to us ….” (Rabbi Nachman’s Wisdom #21).

That means, don’t just wish for a good year, and don’t just hope for happiness and good fortune, but “be wise.” Think about what is good, what would truly be good if it happened, if it existed. “Think only good thoughts” about how you, and others, can be better at living a more wholesome Jewish life, for example. Focus and concentrate on how and in what ways “God will be good to us.”

Don’t be selfish and use your wise thinking only on you and yours. Think about your friends, neighbors, local, city, state and federal governments. (I’m not a big fan of politicians, to put it mildly. This recommendation is not for their sake, but ours, per the Mishnah [Avot 3:2], “Pray for the welfare of the government.”) Think wisely about the material misery of so many across the globe, but think even more wisely about the decline of morality and of civilization which need to be reversed.

Our individual efforts to “think only good thoughts” will have a positive impact, but only to a limited degree. The reason? Because as strongly as you or I focus on bettering the world, we are acting singly. We can mitigate the judgment only to our individual limits. But what if we thought together? What if we were so in love with one another before Rosh Hashanah that we agreed on which were the best, or most necessary, points to “be wise” about and we focused on them together?

Yeah, that would be pretty cool. Now, maybe it’s too close to Rosh Hashanah 5774 to do something globally, maybe not. But certainly, it’s not too late to discuss with some friends and fellow shul/synagogue/chaburah-goers about which “good thoughts” to think and in what ways we want “God to be good to us.” Ditto, for folks, spouse and siblings.

Uniting in peace and love, even as a small group, creates a mind much greater in scope, with much greater power. The Rebbe teaches (Rabbi Nachman’s Wisdom #62):

When thought is intensely concentrated and focused, it can exert great influence. All faculties of the mind, conscious and unconscious, down to the innermost point, must be focused without distraction. When many people do this without distraction, their thinking can actually force something to happen. (See there for a caveat!)

A final word. We usually think of “good” in material terms, “more” and “better,” “bigger” and “faster.” When Rebbe Nachman says “good” he means an eternal good beyond our comprehension—but within our ability to live.

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Inexplicable Desire

I saw this today and I was just so impressed—blown away, actually—that I felt that I had to share it. Rabbi Yosef Albo writes:

“The love that God has for the Jewish people is called cheshek, as it is written (Deuteronomy 7:7), ‘God chashak loved you and chose you’. Cheshek conveys a love which is beyond logic and reason … as when a man loves has cheshek for a woman. He will desire her even if he finds someone who is more beautiful.  Similarly, God loves the Jewish people with a cheshek-love which goes beyond all understanding.   All of Shir HaShirim (Ecclesiastes) is based upon this cheshek-love between God and the Jewish people ….

“The verse says: ‘God chose you to be His chosen nation from among all the nations upon earth ….’ The love is a segulah (supra-rational). God did not choose the Jewish nation because of its large population, as it is written, ‘It is not because of your multitudes did God desire (chashak) you’, nor because of their qualities, as it is written (Deuteronomy 9:6), ‘Know that it is not because of your righteousness … because you are a stiff-necked nation’. Rather, the love is an inexplicable desire. The love is entirely dependent upon the will of the lover [and not the actions, beauty or qualities of the beloved].

“A lover considers the small amount that he receives from his beloved, to be sweeter and more precious than greater quantities he receives from others.  Similarly, God considers the few good deeds that He obtains from the Jewish nation to be more precious than many acts of worship that He obtains from another nation, or from all other nations together” (Sefer HaIkarim 37:3).

What impresses me? It’s inexplicable. (Yes, I know what Rebbe Nachman says in Tzaddik #407, but I came across this passage while doing work-related research.)

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Closing the Door on an Era

I went to a funeral today (41st day of the Omer 5773 [6 May ’13]). The mother of good friends, really good friends. The deceased, Rose Stark, was a personal acquaintance of Dr. Mengele. She was a Holocaust survivor before it was popular to be one.

Rose lived with her daughter and son-in-law, MeeMee and Nachman here, in Jerusalem. (No, they are not Breslovers.) Allow me to digress. I feel sorry for my children’s generation, and for those just a little bit older. They rarely, if  ever, met a European Jew, a pre-War-II Jew. Thank God, I grew up knowing a fair number of such Jews, many who had survived WWII, and some the camps. (My father, RIP, survived the war by being in the Russian Army and Siberia.) Those Jews, even the irreligious ones, were in many ways more Jewish than even chareidi (ultra-Orthodox) Jews of today. Their whole being and essence exuded Jewishness and screamed, “I am Jewish!” (And no, it wasn’t the garlic and herring for breakfast that did it.)

Anyway. Rose was special, as one would expect a Holocaust survivor to be. But she was special as one might not expect a Holocaust survivor to be. She wasn’t bitter. She wasn’t angry. She wasn’t neurotic and she didn’t try to shield her children from life, from goyim, from Judaism or from God.

She was an authentic person, a Jew who believed in God even when she couldn’t find Him in Auschwitz  (nor later, when she repatriated to Sweden.) She was a person with dignity who brought her love for Jews and Jewishness to the fore. She resolved any questions she had  in private, and those of other people with gentle humor.

She did not give up after her first husband and first baby were murdered. She did not stop looking toward a better future, did not stop counting her blessings. The blessings kept coming and so did the better future. She turned out to be more of a warrior than any of the leaders of the Third Reich.

To me, what made her a success was her appreciation for what she had, her realization of how precious Jewish life is, simply by virtue of its existing.

A few months ago, Rose’s son-in-law Nachman mentioned to me a theory he has.  The success, status and comfort of the Jewish people climbed steadily after World War II, but has declined lately. This, he says, is because the Holocaust survivors are dying. It has been in their merit they we have enjoyed what we have these last 65–70 years. I don’t know if he’s right, but it’s certainly something to think about.

Auf simchas. May we celebrate together joyous news. Amen.

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When I Grow Up

I want to be Like Reb Yitzchok Dovid Grossman, the rabbi in the picture. He is one of the most authentic people I know. He is at home with any chassidic group, with any stream of Judaism, with any Jew, learned or not, observant or not. I don’t know him personally, but I’ve had the chance to observe him up close, once on a flight back from Uman-Rosh Hashanah, and once when he turned up at a shul in my neighborhood in Jerusalem a number of years back.

Patience, respect, a warm smile, dignity, no compromise on Torah values or observance, and a love for his fellow Jews—real people, with all their warts, not just in the abstract. The other day, my nephew e-mailed the photo below and I felt I had to let people know what a Jew can be. Rabbi Grossman is so humble he won’t mind having his picture on the Internet and he won’t mind if it’s not on the Internet.

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